I think we kid ourselves. We think others are easy to read and we are the profound ones. We can’t be read. Our issues are bigger since we are the Hero or Shero of our story, so of course our situation is tough to us. But we might be committing the biggest fallacy of our lives thinking, believing and assuming, other people are so simple.
Everyone one suffers. Everyone hurts. Some pain would crush us if we experienced it. I know my pain is not the same as my mother’s when she birth me. In that same way that I will never know that pain, I will never know the pain of another in their life. What it means to them makes it particularly challenging and I can’t judge that it is less or more, as it isn’t my place to judge upon subjective ( or even seemingly objective) variables, rather I can acknowledge that it is there and it hurts.
so what I understand this where do I go next? I want to be a rock for them to lean on, and I want to lean on my “rocks”, so I don’t feel like I am standing at the base of a mountain that is experiencing a rock slide. Even more so, I don’t want to be at the top of a mountain looking down on someone. As I peer down from my high station, seemingly, I throw a pebble and start an avalanche of rocks that they worked so hard to remove from their life. Those rock hurl toward them. The pebble was just a simple, “yours isn’t that bad” or a “people have experienced worse you know”.
I think there is place for those phrases but hey, you pick and choose. Advice isn’t blanket. Words can creat just like they can destroy, and if you choose to give the wrong advice at the right time ( not a typo, I meant “right time”)….well great destruction is your result. It’s the other extreme. We want to give the right advice at right time. That requires tact and wisdom. Like Bill withers said, “We all need somebody to lean on”.
Find your rock and lean,
be the rock for your beloved(s),
Your friendly “Alternative” thinker,
-A.I.
Everyone one suffers. Everyone hurts. Some pain would crush us if we experienced it. I know my pain is not the same as my mother’s when she birth me. In that same way that I will never know that pain, I will never know the pain of another in their life. What it means to them makes it particularly challenging and I can’t judge that it is less or more, as it isn’t my place to judge upon subjective ( or even seemingly objective) variables, rather I can acknowledge that it is there and it hurts.
so what I understand this where do I go next? I want to be a rock for them to lean on, and I want to lean on my “rocks”, so I don’t feel like I am standing at the base of a mountain that is experiencing a rock slide. Even more so, I don’t want to be at the top of a mountain looking down on someone. As I peer down from my high station, seemingly, I throw a pebble and start an avalanche of rocks that they worked so hard to remove from their life. Those rock hurl toward them. The pebble was just a simple, “yours isn’t that bad” or a “people have experienced worse you know”.
I think there is place for those phrases but hey, you pick and choose. Advice isn’t blanket. Words can creat just like they can destroy, and if you choose to give the wrong advice at the right time ( not a typo, I meant “right time”)….well great destruction is your result. It’s the other extreme. We want to give the right advice at right time. That requires tact and wisdom. Like Bill withers said, “We all need somebody to lean on”.
Find your rock and lean,
be the rock for your beloved(s),
Your friendly “Alternative” thinker,
-A.I.